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  • Resilience

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Resilience is a skill that one is forced to learn through a series of challenges and tragedies. It is the precious gift that is offered as a result of a series of devastating wounds.

    Tenacity

    Topic: HEART Healing

    I am watching this mythological creature face the biggest dragons and demons life has to offer, and she simply stares them in the face, exhales a long breath and they evaporate into a cloud of mist. In watching her deep sense of FAITH and her ability to manifest through grace, I know I can make magic happen as well.

    Passion

    Topic: HEART Healing

    The word PASSION derives from the Latin word pati. In the 12th centure, pati evolved into passio in reference to the sufferings of Christ on the cross. The word literally comes from the concept of feeling emotion to deeply that it hurts and causes suffering.

    Centered in Myself from the Inside Out

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Looking at myself through the lens of his eyes and the twenty years between us. In his eyes, I am not a teacher, or entrepreneur, or yoga instructor or shaman. He does not see me for what I do, or even how I behave in relationship with him. In turn, I do not see him as a father, a son, a social worker or an athletic coach. Our friendship contains no complications or expectations, no restrictions or limitations around identities or defined roles. In seeing him, really SEEING him, I see myself, unconditionally.

    To Have Loved and Lost

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    To have loved and lost is to make way and room for a bigger and fuller love. In the healing process, one finds self-love and makes way for BIGGER love.

    Waterfallishly

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    I have many happy places in the world, and many happy things I do in these happy places. Bathing in a secluded waterfall on Maui is at the top of the list.

    Joyfully Sharing Life

    Topic: HEART Healing

    My young nephew planted his forehead on top of mine, his upside down third eye kissing my own third eye. A surreal moment, I felt a connection with him, not only as his auntie, but also as a human being, in soul. In that moment, I felt utter and complete JOY.

    Let Go of What You Want

    Topic: HEART Healing

    One early morning, my brother, Dave took a lengthy drive and a somewhat rocky hike to a bay to surf at sunrise. Just on the outer lip of the bay was a pod of dolphins. He went underwater at first just to see if he could hear them. Then, in just the tiniest flash of a thought, he sent the intention to communicate with them.

    Hug a Tree

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    The forest is a recharging station for humans. What I learned as a little kid was right. If I ever get lost, I now hug a tree and find myself.

    House of the Sun

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    After visiting Haleakala the first time (and returning several times since), I no longer worry about getting caught in the clouds of life. Because I now know how to step above the clouds!

    Depth of Emotion

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    Whales play on the surface of the ocean, and dive deep, pulling the fullness of emotion to the surface. They show us the magic and secrets that are kept hidden deep.

    Do-Over

    Topic: HEART Healing

    The ocean sang to me. “TeriLeigh, you get a do-over, a try again, a repeat. How do you choose to experience it this time around?”

    Tread Carefully

    Topic: BODY Posture

    This is the fourth time I’ve broken a toe in my life, and the second time in the last few months. It was a different toe than last time, so I can’t even write this off as a re-injury. I broke my ring finger toe of my left foot…symbolic of relationship and commitment. As a result of this break, I had to SLOW DOWN and TREAD very carefully.

    Letting Go of Being Wrong

    Topic: HEART Healing

    My first grade teacher crossed out my middle name LEIGH and wrote LEE instead. I was devastated! I knew I had spelled my middle name right, but there, in big ugly blood red marker, my teacher told me it was WRONG. My name, my identity, I WAS WRONG. I didn’t understand. My happy, joyful, carefree, innocent self was broken by that one moment.

    Water Washes Away Grief

    Topic: BODY Posture

    When someone leaves my world, they leave a residue inside me. When we were together, that residue had a pleasant honey nectar flavor. But when they are gone for good, that honey nectar turns rancid and clogs my insides with ache and pain. It’s sticky, so most any sensation, such as a song on the radio or a whiff of cologne on a stranger triggers a memory that sticks to it like Velcro, plugging my lungs, veins and arteries with grief.

    Letting Go of Clutter

    Topic: MIND Intention

    Today, as I pack to move, in letting go of the clutter of my past, and prepare for "tiny living", I get to open my arms to wide and become available to the opportunity to LIVE LARGE.

    After the sudden break-up of my romantic live-in relationship two weeks ago, two friends offered me the opportunity to try “tiny living” in their backyard guest cottage. It’s an adorable structure that looks like it belongs in a fairy tale.

    Empathy

    Topics: BODY Posture, HEART Healing, MIND Intention, SPIRIT Chakras

    I know the feeling of empathy all too well. That awkwardness in my own skin, not understanding the foreign emotions squirming around like parasitic worms in my bloodstream. I used to live in this constant state of energetic infection.

    Emotional Baggage

    Topic: MIND Intention

    Part of the LETTING GO process is figuring out what is mine to keep and what belongs to others, emotionally. While the stuff we store in our closets and cabinets is laced with the energy of the relationship, the heavier stuff is what we store in our necks and shoulders. So often, we hold onto emotional baggage and responsibilities that belong to others, especially to people we care about. We tend to hold the weight of the world, the responsibilities and burdens and worries and emotional baggage we share with others on our shoulders. That’s why we say we “shoulder the burden.”

    Remember How to Fly

    Topic: BODY Posture

    The shoulders are where we bear the weight of the world. I believe that originally, they were meant to hold our wings and help us to get light, to fly. However, as we used them to hold stuff rather than take flight, they broke.

    Letting Go and My Wings Still Work!

    Topic: HEART Healing

    On Thursday night, my boyfriend decided our relationship was over. I know I am an intense and powerful force. I am proud of these traits, and I recognize that these assets may be too much for others. As a result of this break-up, I am a "couch-hopping homeless individual." Since Thursday, I have slept on couch cushions in a basement of a friend, and a twin mattress in a spare bedroom filled with packing boxes of a friend who is getting ready to move. Tonight and tomorrow, I will sleep in a backyard "fairy cottage" guest house of other friends...and so the adventure begins.

    Letting Go…..

    Topic: HEART Healing

    You see, what you focus on, you create. Somehow, I thought I was focusing on my new happy life, and sharing with you the joys of having once upon a time LET GO. Turns out, by writing and teaching and sharing about LETTING GO, I was gifted this big ugly thorny box of "Guess What TeriLeigh! You have more to let go."

    Ideal vs. Real

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Let Go or Be Dragged. This Zen Proverb pretty much sums up my experience of divorce. I had a choice, to let go of what I thought was ideal, or be dragged through the mud and rocky terrain of what was real. I suppose, in all honesty, I dragged my husband through the last years of marriage. He let go, and subsequently dragged me through divorce. I kicked and screamed and wailed and cried. Literally and figuratively.

    Automatic Unconscious Response

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    Rather ironically, in order to let go of what I was desperately and consciously trying to control, I had to trigger an unconscious response. In order to let go of control, I had to UNCONSCIOUSLY take control.

    The Power of Word is the Secret to Mind Control

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    The power of word inside the human mind strikes a chord of electrical impulses that changes and manipulates all the functions of the human body.

    How To Let Go of Control

    Topic: BODY Posture

    LETTING GO

    Topic: HEART Healing

    I looked out the window of an airplane and read the words written in block letters across the wing "DO NOT WALK OUTSIDE THIS AREA." I jumped, head-first, off the wing of the plane into a new paradigm. I was no longer strapped in the comfort zone in the middle seat between indecision and indignation.

    The free-fall was terrifying.

    And exhilarating.

    The Healing Powers of Rose Quartz

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    Several people very dear to me have heartaches right now. And not just little ones. BIG ASS BROKEN SHARD CHASM HEARTACHES. I’ve written before that the heart is completely unable to be broken. The Sanskrit term for the heart chakra literally translates to “that which cannot be broken.” However, it can sure feel deeply wounded. The beauty of the thumbing beating pumping organ of life is that it heals itself and does so with power and passion and purpose.

    Don’t Hold Your Tongue

    Topic: BODY Posture

    WORDS are the most powerful force have. What we speak out loud becomes our external reality! What we swallow, we internalize. Don't hold your Tongue, yet choose your words wisely!

    Sukha – Surrender

    Topic: YOGA Practice

    Kiss It Make It Better – Oxytocin

    Topic: BODY Posture

    When you look in your medicine cabinet, you could possibly replace most of them with a consistent and conscious oxytocin producing cuddling practice.

    Winter Solstice

    Topic: HEART Healing

    In many ways, Christmas died for me the day my grandmother died, Christmas Day 2007. I walked a rather dark and twisty booby-trapped filled tunnel for many years after that. This year, as I celebrate the winter solstice, Christmas and the New Year, I celebrate the rebirth, the emerging into the light.

    Cuddles and Snuggles

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Due to unexpected illness of my canine companion, my blog will not follow its regularly scheduled structure this week. Please stay tuned...when I can, I will post at the least the following this week...

    Energy Healing for Deep Emotional Trauma

    Topic: HEART Healing

    When emotional trauma occurs, the scars are more insidious, and they come out in twisted ways. Energy healing is a great way to pull them out safely.

    How Energy Healing Works

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    Energy Healing is simply a directing of atoms and molecules to reorganize. This story describes how energy healing fixed my broke toe almost instantly.

    How to Use Breath to Be Mindful – NOW

    Topic: MIND Intention

    How a Broken Toe Told Me to Slow Down and Do Less

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I realize that lately I have been trying to swallow more than I can chew. I have a tendency to be rather ambitious and want to accomplish more tasks than possible in a shorter time than feasible.

    My sad swollen broken toe is forcing me to slow down and do less. Perhaps the quickest and most effective technique to help you slow down and practice "less is more" is Focused Breathing.

    Less is More through Ujjayi Breath

    Topic: YOGA Practice

    All my teachers preached, “ujjayi breath is the most important aspect of your practice.” I took that to heart and became what I thought was an ujjayi master. My breath could be heard throughout the whole room, like a train on an ocean beach during a hurricane! Yep, I was “that girl,” the one breathing so loud through savasana that no one could quite completely relax. Turns out, I wasn’t relaxing at all, ever.

    When Intuition Turns into an Ego Monster

    Topic: HEART Healing

    We use the phrase “gut instinct” or “gut feeling” to describe an intuitive awareness. Intuition has a happy little home in our gut. When something doesn’t “sit well” it usually upsets the tummy, and the “gut feeling” speaks volumes….if we are willing and open to listen. If we aren't willing to listen, that still small voice may grow loud. It may just grow into an ugly ego monster.

    Master Mind

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    A Master Mind™ group is not established so that individual members can solve each other's problems. Rather, such a group is established to surrender to the Master Mind™ any problem areas, challenges, needs for healing, or any other positive desires of each member. When such requests are fully and properly made of the Master Mind™, answers and solutions occur in a most amazing way.

    Brain Fog

    Topic: MIND Intention

    When my clients complain of brain fog, mind chatter, and monkey mind, I teach them focused breathing. This breathing technique instantly slows your nervous system, sends fresh oxygen to your brain, and gets your neurons to fire more efficiently.

    Sinuses

    Topic: BODY Posture

    The sinus cavity is the place where all five of your senses meet. Your tear ducts, ear canals, nasal passage, and throat all meet in these caves inside your skull. Thus, all the information your gather from what you see, hear, taste, touch, and smell in life merge in this space.

    Change Your Hands

    Topic: YOGA Practice

    De-Cluttering Post Divorce

    Topic: HEART Healing

    De-cluttering post divorce is far more than “tidying up,” it’s a complete soul overhaul. . . again, and Again, and AGAIN.

    Open the Hand Chakras

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    After holding my hands in a fist for a count of fifty, my hands screamed at me in writer’s cramp when I picked up my pencil. I couldn't have composed a single phrase anyhow because my fists pressure squeezed every idea right out of my skull. I had almost completely blocked my hand chakras!

    Yes, Thank You

    Topic: MIND Intention

    Several individuals offered me beautiful blessings yesterday. I decided to accept every single one, with mindfulness and gratitude. I received their compliments by saying “yes, thank you.”

    Open Your Hands

    Topic: BODY Posture

    The two of us shared this small moment of desperation. I wanted to give the child a gift. The child wanted to receive the gift. Yet neither of us had the means to make the exchange because his hands were full. I explained the dilemma to the child, and he just looked up at me in desire, mute. I chuckled. Here we were, trying to exchange a treat, and we both felt as though we had been tricked.

    Child’s Pose

    Topic: YOGA Practice

    Within just a few deep ujjayi breaths in child's pose, my spine and shoulders and hips and knees tingle with tiny taps of tickles. I can feel the nerves between my vertebrae sending zaps of electrical impulses to the rest of my body saying is a sweet tender way “wake up, you have some great things to experience today!”

    Catch the Moments of Life

    Topic: HEART Healing

    “How does it feel to be dying?”

    “It feels like all these beautiful pieces of life are flying around me, and I’m trying to catch ‘em…I know it feels like you have all the time in the world, but you don’t. So stop playing it cool. Catch the moments of life. Catch them while you can, because sooner than you know it, you’ll be too old and too slow.”

    Make Thanksgiving Every Meal

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    Last night, I ate my dinner in front of the tv watching the news. This one simple act that I know is common place across America. In doing so, I broke one of my most basic rules, and now I’m paying for it.

    Just for 10 Minutes

    Topic: MIND Intention

    Ten minutes before I left the cafe, I shut my laptop and closed my journal. I pushed my plate and cup away and I just sat and enjoyed the presence of the retired folk at the table behind me. I didn’t pay attention to what they were saying, I just let myself feel HOW they were together. Just for 10 minutes, I let myself do nothing.

    Index Finger

    Topic: BODY Posture

    Symbolically, the index finger represents specific action. We use the finger to point out specificity, and we use the finger to direct action.

    Half Moon Pose – This Too Shall Pass

    Topic: YOGA Practice

    This week, in the wake of the election and Monday's super moon, I have leaned towards (and into) half-moon pose in my practice. Both in honor of the moon, and as an effort to find comfort amongst the chaos. I say lean because this week I’ve also found my half-moon pose to be more of a lean-to than a stacked structure.

    To Be Loved

    Topic: HEART Healing

    All anybody every really wants is to be loved. When we are cursed with the ugliest of all conditions, we want to be LOVED. When we are scarred by the the deepest of all wounds, we want to be LOVED. When we are contaminated by the opposite of love, we want to be LOVED. Focus on LOVE. Where focus goes, energy flows.

    The Color Purple

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    I read the book The Color Purple every year after the movie came out in 1985, for I don’t know how many years, at least well into my early thirties. I wrote book reports on it in every English class through high school and college. (Yes, I was nerdy enough not to recycle the old book reports, but to actually write new ones each year, each one different.) The funny thing with that book is that every time I read it, I write copious notes in the margins. And, every time I read it, I end up losing it, or giving it away. I think I’ve owned at least a dozen copies, which means at least twelve copies of The Color Purple are floating out there with notes of my own wonderings from various stages of my life.

    Words Create Change

    Topic: MIND Intention

    I personally prefer to smother myself in positive language. I don't want to live in a world where insults and verbal attacks are scrawled all over the walls of every public place. Your words may be invisible on those walls and in that upholstery, but they are there, nonetheless.

    Knuckle Down

    Topic: BODY Posture

    Over the last week I have received news from people in my life of unexpected death, heart attack, attempted suicide, cancer relapse, and open heart surgery. All of these incidences called me to task as an holistic wellness provider, either for a client or a friend. Not to mention that during the week, the whole country was in the midst of a bare knuckle fist fight over the presidential election.

    No wonder my knuckles are beaten up. No wonder I’m having bad dreams every single night. As an energy healer, I am fighting the battles for the spirit on a sub-space level.

    Pyramid Pose – For Stability through Turmoil

    Topic: YOGA Practice

    When the world goes into turmoil, pyramid pose helps you find stability by planting your feet in the physical and open you up to the spiritual.

    Bend Yourself Back Into Shape

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Today, in the wake of this BIG CHANGE that we experience in America every four years, make a conscious intention to do your practice for yourself, and bend yourself back into shape.

    Survive the Energy of Elections

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    "Hope is a good thing. Maybe the best of things. And good things never die."

    Pinky Toe

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I once broke my pinky toe. In retrospect, it was one of the most traumatic and transformative experiences of my life. I rub my pinky toe and feel where the bone was once broken to remind myself to step away from the tiny details and zoom out to the big picture.

    Change of Mind

    Topic: MIND Intention

    I changed my attitude about a very physical sensation, and it changed my experience. With a simple change of mind, we can change experience.

    Home is Where the Hug Is

    Topic: HEART Healing

    While a beautiful home with doors and windows and fences and flowers provides shelter and stability, HOME is where the HUG is.

    Rootedness

    Topic: SPIRIT Chakras

    The other night while running an errand, I saw a homeless man slumped over under a blanket on a park bench off the side of a road where homeless people don’t usually loiter. The image loitered in my head. On my drive back home, I pulled over and greeted the man, offering him a fistful of Halloween candy and a five-dollar bill.

    Unicorn Horn

    Topic: MIND Intention

    Do NOT Call Me “Sweetheart”

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Big Brains

    Topic: MIND Intention

    Sometimes, Pain is Good

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I realized that my chronic neck and shoulder pain is not a bad thing! Rather it’s about growing and moving and shifting and expanding! My wings just got bigger, and they need deeper roots!

    Wear Your Crown

    Topic: BODY Posture

    To wear the crown squarely on the head, aligning all the bones of your body to press up into the crown is to align your body in perfect healthy posture. Then, the burden of the crown becomes an honor, a proud responsibility, and a selfless act of service. When one in leadership acts from selfless service, s/he is acting from the ultimate space of integrity.

    A Good Head on Your Shoulders

    Topic: BODY Posture

    When someone tells me, “You have a good head on your shoulders,” I blush with gratitude. We all have heads, but to carry your head around ON your shoulders PROPERLY is a skill and a talent that I am coming to recognize is rare

    6 Reasons NOT to Say, “Keep Your Chin Up”

    Topic: BODY Posture

    The phrase “keep your chin up,” which commonly is used as encouragement to stay positive in difficult times, is not exactly the nicest thing to say to someone who is struggling for many reasons.

    Release Your Grip

    Topic: BODY Posture

    When you release your grip, take a deep breath, and surrender in stressful circumstances, you are letting go of conscious control and allowing your unconscious mind and brain take over.

    Writer’s Cramp

    Topic: BODY Posture

    When I was a kid, taking standardized tests, I was very careful to fill in those little bubbles just perfectly. I thought the answer card looked really ugly when my classmates just sort of scribbled inside the circles, and they didn’t care about their answers. I made sure the entire bubble was filled, and dark, and no lines went outside the boundaries. My answer sheet looked, well, PERFECT!

    Shoulder the Burdens

    Topic: BODY Posture

    Why are we are willing and eager to shoulder the burdens of others rather than allow the rightful owners to take responsibility?

    Givers and Receivers

    Topic: BODY Posture

    There are givers and receivers in this world, to determine which you tend to be, analyze your inhalations and exhalations.

    Diaphragm

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    I’m gonna share a little secret about the diaphragm with you that I learned from a structural integrationist some years ago. When he taught me this little tidbit, my whole understanding and awareness of my entire body changed, and suddenly my 120 pound frame started feeling a lot lighter, all the time.

    Internal Core Muscles

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    The relationship between the abs, obliques and the internal core muscles of your psoas is a very special one because they protect and hold the precious cargo of your vital organs without the rigid support of bones. Your abdomen, home to your vital digestive organs, is the place where you digest life, where you take in the outside world and mix it with your inside self and decide what works for you and what doesn’t, keep the good and spit out the bad. Your abs and obliques and internal core psoas muscles work together to hug and hold and support and love and embrace these organs as they do their important work.

    Happy on the Inside

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I’ve read articles about how the psoas hold tightness and emotion from deep trauma, but what those articles don’t say is that on the other side of every one of those challenging tragedies of life that latch onto the tiny nooks and crannies beside and around and next to the psoas are just as many triumphs and transformations and tears of joy and happiness that live INSIDE the psoas muscles. The same part of the body that is triggered by extreme pain is also triggered by extreme joy.

    Barbie Body

    Topic: BODY Posture

    A quick flip through any fashion magazine offers dozens, if not hundreds, of images of Barbie Body skinny women standing in postures that emphasize the bust and hips, minimizing the waist, making stick skinny models look curvy.

    Movement

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I start every yoga class I teach by asking my students “what body parts are talking to you today?” Inevitably, someone (likely a woman) says HIPS. Hips and hamstrings are quite likely the body parts that get the tightest, and when they are tight, they restrict movement in every other part of your body. Yet, the hips are the part of the body that initiate all movement, that are necessary to keep us in forward momentum. When they feel tight, we can easily feel crippled, stuck, and constricted in everything we do.

    Steadiness

    Topic: BODY Posture

    To take a seat in my own body is to anchor myself in the sacredness of my own sacrum, the seat of my own soul, and find the steadiness of life within myself rather than depend upon it from something in my external surroundings. My sacrum, the seat of my soul, is where I can access the steadiness to listen to the inner calling of my Self.

    Ownership

    Topic: BODY Posture

    Taking a seat is symbolic of OWNERSHIP, marking your place in the world. Thus, taking a seat in your own body is symbolic of taking ownership of your own body, and how it fits into the world around you.

    Tragedy

    Topic: BODY Posture

    The world doesn’t just feel heavy today, it is DENSE. The events this weekend at Pulse in Florida are a reminder that this new century continues to bring the heaviest of traumas and tragedies to bear. From Columbine to 9/11 to Katrina to Virginia Tech to Sandy Hook to Hurricane Sandy to Pulse, and too many countless others I haven’t listed, each tragedy pierces open our hearts. In an instant of seeing the news of any one of these events, I feel as if the bottom of my heart rips open, the blood gushes through my belly and pools densely in the base of my pelvic bowl.

    Mass of the A$$

    Topic: BODY Posture

    The biggest and strongest muscles of your body are the group of muscles that make up your butt, that’s right, your derriere, back-side, bum, booty, bottom, hind-end, ass…This group of muscles is so powerful it comes with more names than I can list here. It is the biggest source of muscular power your body has in one spot. Remembering to use the “mass of your ass” is a simple key to accessing a deep strength inside yourself that you may not have known you had in reserve!

    Endurance

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I need to remind myself that my process is like climbing a mountain. It’s an endurance process, not a race, which requires a slow and steady pace like the tortoise, not the hare. In order to remind myself to work with endurance to build a business that will last in the long term, every morning, as walk my dog, I purposely hike a hill. While climbing that hill, I step into my heel to activate my butt and climb at a rhythm, a cadence, a slow and steady pace that is sustainable, manageable, even enjoyable!

    Thunder Thighs of POWER

    Topic: BODY Posture

    Power

    Topic: BODY Posture

    The thing about being down on your knees is that you must use your thighs to hold you upright. When your knees are down, they cannot buckle, and the strength and power of your thighs is more directly connected to the ground, the source of support. In being down on the ground asking for support, I was closer to the support I needed, and that support traveled quickly into my thighs and gave me the strength and power to take a new step.

    4 Lessons Knee Pain Teaches

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    Based on common idioms and phrases we use around the knees, here are a few simple lessons your knees may be trying to teach you about life.

    Humility

    Topic: BODY Posture

    Injuries and pain in your knees can be an your body telling you that it’s time to surrender, to yield, to find some humility, and to have faith.

    Stubbornness

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I am grateful for my feet. They offer me the ability to stand my ground, to take a stance, to stand up for myself, and yes, to stomp out the fires of life that I don’t want to fight. Injuries or ailments of the feet can be an indication of challenges in your life related to stubbornness, commitment, loyalty, will, support, perseverance, tenacity, rootedness, groundedness, stability, and so much more.

    Science Meets Holistic

    Topic: Brain Buzzings

    Neuroscience, learning research and body mechanics complete the mind-body-spirit equation to help people unlock the healing power that's deep inside them.

    Healing From the Inside Out

    Topic: BODY Posture

    I teach my students in yoga classes and my clients in posture brain training that breath is everything. I know it when I see the expressions of their faces change instantly with just a few conscious focused breaths. Today, when I was unable to find relief outside myself from my chiropractor and personal massage therapist, I was forced to heal myself, from the inside.

    Let It Be

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    I've had a trying day. It wasn't a bad day, on the surface. Events and occurrences didn't send me swimming upstream or battling tornado like winds that wanted to take me in directions against my grain. In fact, everything in my external world was as calm and sweet as the gentle breeze during my noontime walk with my dog. However, under the surface, my day left my brain feeling like a national disaster zone after a tropical storm.

    Assumptions

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Walk On

    Topic: Brain Buzzings

    Every once in a rare while, someone walks in and out of my life in s short time period, like a stop-over in a train depot. They enter rather quietly, and sit down next to me on the weathered wooden park bench. And they care. For a short time, they care deeply. They pay attention, and they contribute, and they notice the little things.

    Depression

    Topic: HEART Healing

    “Wake up and LIVE! Stop sleep-walking through your existence. LIVE! Taste every morsel of every single moment! That’s why you are here! FEEL every single thing about being human!”

    What My Mother Taught Me #3 – Put Food On a Plate

    Topic: Brain Buzzings

    What My Mother Taught Me #2 – Always Answer

    Topic: Brain Buzzings

    When someone addresses a comment or a question to me, if I don't answer as soon as I can, some little control freak man in the back of my brain goes and rings that bell continuously until I do respond. He's rather annoying, and sometimes I hear him pester me with a truncated version of that line, "you ANSWER," increasing in volume and tone with every strike.

    What My Mother Taught Me #1 – I Already Know

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    Mom, in all her wisdom, not just as a life lived longer with more experience than mine, but moreso in her wisdom of knowing me, and how I feel and who I am and what I want and how I respond to things, said one tiny little sentence to me that made all the difference, and launched me like a human cannonball into a trajectory of my future. At the same time, that one little sentence burned a memory in my brain so vivid that her voice plays inside my head, clear as the present moment, every single time I need to make a big (or even small) decision in my life.

    Emotional Pain

    Topic: HEART Healing

    When I'm hurting, I can't always ask for help, much less tell you how to heal my hurts.

    I want you to come get me.

    I want you to reach up a grab a ray of sunshine in your had like a sword and use it to slash the binding robes of Fear and Loss and Grief from my limbs.

    Here are ten things you can do that make a BIG difference to someone in emotional pain.


    Grace

    Topic: HEART Healing

    If I keep focusing on those darn cockroaches, I might likely end up so paranoid that I'd drive myself right into Morgellons Disease (a condition where one feels like bugs are crawling under the skin at all times).

    So, to distract myself into sleep, I gave myself the lullaby of looking at my Maui pictures before I turned off the phone for the night. The most comforting pictures to me were the ones where I was climbing trees. I had captioned one beautiful and majestic rainbow eucalyptus tree that it was so beautiful it deserved a name. A friend replied GRACE...as in AMAZING!

    Woman

    Topic: HEART Healing

    The Dalai Lama said at the Vancouver Peace Summit in September of 2009, “The world will be saved by the western woman.”

    Business is a big bad ugly world, and I've experienced first hand that many men think that a woman shouldn't wrestle in the ring without an escort, but rather, the woman should carry the round sign above her bikini clad body while the man fights the battles. But the western woman, she must to fight the battles, because she sees the need to protect the greater humanity, and no man can stop her!

    Listening

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Before my trip to Maui, I posted about losing my job (Support). I received dozens of comments of support, reminders of what I already knew, that this too shall pass. While I appreciated all the votes of confidence and prayers and words of wisdom, none of them told me anything I didn't already know....Listening when someone is in pain, especially the invisible pain of emotional trauma and challenging circumstances, is likely one of the most beautiful forms of intimacy, and one of the most difficult skills to develop.

    Holding

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Just one week after losing my job, I spent a week in tropical paradise. And now I'm home.

    Back to the real world.

    Ouch.

    After less than two hours sleep on a red eye flight and over twelve hours of travel, last night I climbed into my own cozy bed, and stared at the ceiling counting the question mark cockroaches scurrying around in my mind. Those darn cockroaches I mentioned the other day, the ones terrorizing me with anxious thoughts are scratching raw lacerations through the crevices of my brain. (read my Anxiety post here) While I know that they simply need direction from the General, I am not feeling exactly up to the task of serving as their Commander in Chief.

    Seems counting cockroaches is far less sleep-inducing than counting sheep.

    Anxiety

    Topic: HEART Healing

    I stared blankly at the ceiling for over an hour, trying to breathe away the anxious thoughts in my head that were spilling jitters through my body. I felt as though high-beams had been turned in the dead of night and tens of thousands of cockroaches that had hidden in the back crevices of my mind went scattering down every nerve of my spinal cord. Each one carrying on his scurrying back a question mark that doesn't have a definitive answer.

    Contentment

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    One week after losing my job, I left the world of discontent, and flew to paradise, contentment. I land in Maui for a week-long visit with my brother, Dave, his wife, Goy, and my six-month old nephew, Nakin. I haven't seen my brother in six years, and as a father now, he carries a different aura. As he holds a fussy Nakin on his lap and tells him "you're okay."

    Familiarity

    Topic: HEART Healing

    "Is that a lime tree?" I asked my brother, looking out the back window of his house in Kula Maui.

    "Lemons actually. In Hawai'i, lemons are green and limes are yellow." His little laughter after the comment reminded me of his eight-year-old voice instructing me on the rules of "opposite day."

    I arrived late last night, after a rather tumultuous month of intensity at work culminating in yet another kick to get outside the comfort zone.

    Support

    Topic: HEART Healing

    I got fired.

    Let me say that again to let it settle in. I got fired.

    There's a piece of me that is hugely relieved because I had endured a good amount of abuse and was certainly not appreciated for my gifts and talents at that position. I didn't feel the support I needed to fully thrive.

    Empowerment

    Topic: HEART Healing

    As a writer, particularly one who has not given birth to human children, my words, my compositions, my creations, are my babies. When someone copies my words and shares them with the world and tells everyone that I mothered those inspirational beautiful little cherubs of sentences and phrases and concepts and ideas, I gleam with the pride of a mother who knows that I was merely the vessel through which they were birthed, but the writings themselves have an energy and character and personality of their own. However, when someone wants to claim my words as their own, as if they played a more significant role in their creation than I did, I have no choice but to bear my claws and transform into a fierce Mama Bear.

    Heart

    Topics: HEART Healing, SPIRIT Chakras

    While the heart cannot be broken, and is the strongest muscle of the human body, it most certainly can be beaten and battered and abused and torn.

    Sensitivity

    Topic: HEART Healing

    The sensitivity to blend the senses and feel at depth is both a gift and a curse. One that reveals itself as both sweet and sinister several times a day.

    Patience

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Empathy

    Topic: HEART Healing

    The pain of empathy is the most intense of all pain, forcing me to tend to the wounds of others before those of myself, because their pain is my pain.

    Hurt

    Topic: HEART Healing

    How does one "just be with the pain" until it subsides?

    Cry. Let yourself cry full shuddering sobbing wet tears.Let the tears stream down your face. No tissues. No sleeves. Let the slobbery snotty mess drain all over your face.

    Fetal Position helps...a lot. Bed covers help a lot too.

    Touch

    Topic: HEART Healing

    "A six foot five man suffering from drug abuse andor mental health issues was being very aggressive on the bus with erratic movements, cursing, shouting, etc. While everyone was scared, this one seventy year old woman reached out her hand, tightly gripping his hand until he calmed down, sat down silently, with eventual tears in his eyes."

    The human touch of one soul to another is perhaps the greatest medicine on the planet.

    Boredom

    Topics: Brain Buzzings, HEART Healing

    For a curious and creative mind, boredom is worse than depression.

    It is a death sentence.

    It is like getting sucked into a black hole. Where thought and insight and inspiration are vacuumed out of your brain, leaving a vast space of echoing emptiness.

    Shame

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Last week, I felt a tiny moment of shame. It was just a blip on the computer screen of my heart in the midst of a whole bundle of other emotions connected to nothing in particular...The ice pick of Shame in my gut made me step wrong on my heel, roll my ankle and forced two or three awkward steps to re-gain my balance on my day. The whole episode lasted no more than a minute, but it was enough to leave a raw pang just behind my left kidney.

    Judgment

    Topics: Brain Buzzings, HEART Healing

    Devotion

    Topic: HEART Healing

    Devotion, true love, unconditional reverence, total honoring of the space and process of another...to hold this capacity for another is one of life's most beautiful experiences and expressions.

    Trust

    Topics: Brain Buzzings, HEART Healing

    If people trust you, and you have rapport, they will respect you. As a teacher, respect is your greatest asset.

    Dreams

    Topic: HEART Healing

    As a writer, I have walked the tightrope between dreams and reality, been unable to distinguish real-world from la-la-land, and unsuccessfully tried to discern the difference between imagination and practicality. I live such a vivid waking-dream-world that when my sleeping-dream-world weaves and mingles with the images of my active-waking-mind I'm left with a loss for words.

    Simplicity

    Topics: Brain Buzzings, HEART Healing

    Simplicity is achieved through a de-cluttering process. In life, once simplicity is achieved, the final product is irrelevant. Throw it away.

    Honesty

    Topics: Brain Buzzings, HEART Healing

    Just one tiny utterance of honesty can send a relationship through a worm hole into a whole new realm.

    Insecurity

    Topic: HEART Healing

    The first time I met Insecurity, she was a quiet mouse sitting still in the corner of a Lutheran Sunday School classroom. I was seated behind a couple other girls, waiting for our teacher to start the class. I didn't know for sure, but the two girls, whom I had once thought were my friends, were gossiping about someone they thought didn't wear stylish enough clothes.

    Abundance

    Topics: Brain Buzzings, HEART Healing

    To live in abundance is to believe that whatever you need is always provided, to give away what you have in full awareness that what you need is within grasp.

    The Unknown

    Topic: Brain Buzzings

    The greatest fear of the human condition is the fear of the unknown. But, falling into the nothingness is an adventure to anticipate rather than fear.